Some time back I received a letter from someone that really landed wrong. It’s possible you could read this letter and not feel what I felt. The letter was full of appreciation and words that seemed kind. My husband read the letter and didn’t think it sounded too bad. Why did it land wrong on me? The lack of personal pronouns. The letter was filled with short phrases without personal pronouns. Compare these two sentences: Appreciate you guys. I appreciate you guys. The only difference is the word “I”. It can make a difference though. What does a lack of personal pronouns communicate? Well, it could mean several things. I know I thought in the case of the letter, it meant that they were purposely communicating their lack of true warmth. I sensed they wanted me to know they didn’t really care. I might be wrong, but it did put the thought in my head.
Maybe the lack of personal pronouns is just a casual writing style. I know I can be prone to writing in a casual way. In the right setting when you are expressing casual things, it may be perfectly appropriate. Another reason people speak without personal pronouns is that they are in a hurry. I often catch myself responding to something serious in this casual way. Have you ever responded to a serious request with one word? How often I’ve jotted out a message of ,”Praying!” And I do pray…but how much more impactful is the sentence, “I am praying for you.”? Or maybe I say, “So sorry!”, instead of “I’m so sorry!” When you take the time to invest yourself into your sentences, it communicates care. It communicates love. It says, “I’m in this with you.”
God is all about the personal pronouns. He invests Himself in us.
“Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous righthand.”
The LORD appeared to him from afar, saying, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness.
“Then I passed by you and saw you, and behold, you were at the time for love; so I spread My skirt over you and covered your nakedness. I also swore to you and entered into a covenant with you so that you became Mine,” declares the Lord GOD.
Has there ever been a greater mismatched pair than God and His people? Let’s see… The immense, all-powerful, all-knowing, holy, perfect God has chosen weak, sinful, ungrateful people with whom to give Himself. And He doesn’t just redeem us to save us in general. If He were to save us and then send us to some remote place away from Himself to live, He would be more than generous. But God does more than that. He redeems us to bring us to Himself. He gives Himself to unworthy creatures.
I want to be like Christ. I want to invest myself in others. Maybe the start to engaging my heart is to take care how I speak to others.